Bet some of you will never hear that tune the same way again..
So this isn’t a topic the Cowboy and I have discussed much. I’m not sure we will .. either. You never know. But at the very least, we got a good laugh out of what is prompting this post.
(I’ve come to realize in writing about our conversations, that we laugh a lot. Which is just a really good thing in life.)
*This would be the other half of the text message I got the other night from a girlfriend.. the one I referenced at the top of my last post about Cowboy Church. You know the second part of the ‘two hilarious things happened this week that I feel I simply must share with you, especially in light of your blog topics this past week’ she wrote.
Three things to keep in mind here:
1.) I didn’t include this in yesterday’s post because .. well, it just didn’t feel quite right to put this one in the same conversation as church.
2.) She sent this the same night I shared a girlfriends recap of a conversation she had with her son, after learning he had apparently at one point, walked in on her and her husband having sex. So this is relevant.
3.) This whole project.. writing something or at the very least trying, each day for a year as a gift I hope someday to my daughter .. one might think I shouldn’t include this. But no one ever had this talk with me. Not until I was like, way old. About the topic at all. And it’s probably not good to be totally ignorant. Like I was about far too many things coming from a small town where you just didn’t talk about anything even remotely risqué. Or parents that went there either. I vividly remember the first time a girlfriend started talking about her ‘rabbit’. I had no clue what she was talking about. We got the best laugh. After I came out of shock. Being blissfully ignorant has its perks, too. I think. But, a lot of my girlfriends and even my guy friends are stunned at how non-versed in the following, I am. Should I admit this? I don’t know. But it is what it is.
Oh, and I should probably add this …
4.) Disclaimer: going on is not for the faint of heart. Or anyone that might consider themselves a prude. And don’t judge me on this. I’m just relaying the text and trying to do what I always do for my friends.. either be a sounding board, or help them find some answers. By the way, this is a $15 billion industry and apparently growing.
So someone’s talking (ahem, using) about all of this. Whether you admit it or not.
5.) I usually love to add photos. I think it makes any writing that much more rich and vivid. But .. there will be none today.
The text stated:
“Secondly, no sex going on here unfortunately for my kids to walk in on.” She is a couple years out now from her divorce.
“But,” she adds …
“Does anyone want to offer up suggestions on how I should explain the special item that my 11 year old found in my bed that I forgot to put away?! I said we would discuss the ‘pink thing’ in the near future! I am still giggling about the confused look on her face!”
She’s wondering what advice I/we might have for her on that one.
Surprisingly, there seems more advice on the world wide web for this topic than the child walking in on sex discussion.
I personally got nothing for ya, my dear friend. Other than maybe don’t forget to put it away next time. And find a good bedside table with a drawer that locks.
One resource I love to turn to for insight every now and then .. is Your Tango. If you’ve never checked out their brutal honesty on all things relationship:
Here’s another person’s blog on the topic that almost had me on the floor .. laughing, here a few seconds ago. I’m not sure how good it is, but there is specific language offered to help a parent and child through the situation:
Otherwise, I was just with an old classmate last weekend who now essentially works in that whole arena. She has built a career out of doing direct sales for a company called Pure Romance. So no holds barred. When I mentioned your text to her on Saturday, it quickly became a very open conversation with about 8 people standing around us. SHE is apparently very comfortable having this conversation and has suggestions. So let me connect you.
In the meantime, I feel like I need to go to church. Or something along those lines.
I’ve learned since the last post on Cowboy Church, there are apparently plenty of options nearby. It seems you don’t need a rodeo. To be on the road. Or sitting in the stands somewhere. Cowboy Church can be also found, close to home. I’ve learned quickly, many feel we have great options nearby.