I want to be sure my daughter knows who the important women are in my life ..
And I am so very fortunate that there are many.
For now though .. I want to at least say a few words about the various women who are my mothers, by different definition, or who have stepped into that role for me willingly or otherwise and are as close to my own mother as they come.
The days leading up to Mother’s Day, I believe, are as good a time as any to share those thoughts.
A godmother is a female godparent in the Christian tradition.
God parents are responsible in nurturing the spirtual growth of the child. The parents guide the child in day-to-day functions, but the God parent guides the child when it comes to their relationship with God. It is actually a very big responsibility and an honorable position to hold in the childs life.
Godmother may also refer to:
- A female arranged to be legal guardian of a child if untimely demise is met by the parents
- Godmother (cocktail), a cocktail made with Italian Amaretto liqueur and vodka
(When you look at the word Godmother too many times it starts to look weird, doesn’t it? Anyway …)
I don’t remember ever not knowing my Godmother. She has been a part of my life always. I don’t know how she was picked. But I called her tonight, told her I was writing about her and asked if she remembered what that moment was like .. the moment my parents asked her to be my Godmother.
“Who is this?” she first said.
It’s been awhile since we’ve talked, obviously and at the very least, I learned my number isn’t programmed into her phone. I feel bad about that.
“It’s me. And I’m writing about you tonight. Tell me about ….”
“It’s you? .. How are you? I can barely hear you,” she said. “What was the question again?”
Anti-climactic, I guess.
She went on to tell me that she and her husband, my Godfather were thrilled. She said they had seen me, and were so excited to have been asked.
“We were thrilled,” she said. “In fact, not too long ago, I came across the certificate that says we are your Godparents,” she added.
I asked if she might send me a copy, I’m not sure I’ve ever seen it .. nor do I remember what the certificate we signed with my own daughter’s Godparents looks like.
I knew that if anything ever happened to me, she and her husband would be the ones to care for me. That thought, by the way, used to scare the hell out of me. Not that they, her name is Donna by the way .. Donna and her husband would care for me, but that they were there ‘in case something ever happened‘ to my parents.
They were always there with a good joke. With an invite to dinner. At school events. In fact, Donna used to work at one of the schools I attended growing up, so I had quite a bit of time with her. They are always there with a birthday or holiday card. They have come to every major life event. And many of the minor ones too.
No matter how much or how little we are in touch .. she, and they are here for me and my family.
I don’t know that I have ever spoken a word about God to – or with my Godmother though .. is that common for most, anymore? In fact the last three times were were probably in church together were my baptism, my wedding and my own mother’s funeral.
Is the role of Godmother more symbolic anymore than it is about the traditional role? Or has it always been that way? I believe so.
(My own sweet child, I feel terrible I have no idea if you have ever had a conversation about faith with your own Godmother.)
Regardless, I am so appreciative of Donna’s constant presence in my life, and the reason why. That she would guarantee I have a loving home if ever needed.
The peace of mind, to a parent, I believe is priceless.
And I would think, an honor to both the one asking that someone would say yes .. and to those being asked.
Thank you, Donna (and G). Love you dearly.
And to the Godmother of my own daughter, love you for always being there for her too, more than you will ever know.
Now about that Godmother cocktail…