We all have various quirks we inevitably do .. when we need to really do some thinking.
My brother tends to pull on his ear.
Lately I’ve been writing.
But, most of my adult life, I’ve come to realize, I clean.
Fortunately for me.. after days of running around with extra projects at work.. meetings.. appointments.. dinners.. going through stacks of paperwork.. cats peeing on my daughters bed for some reason and the subsequent load of laundry.. researching child placement studies & articles and talking a few experts on the topic while the Cowboy was here recently .. there is a lot of cleaning tonight, to do.
I was going to write over the next few nights about the Cowboys journey. The one he is on to simply help he and his kids come back to being a family .. not relative strangers on a visit ..
I love the word journey because its what we are all on and where the road will take us .. we have yet to see round the next bend.
But perhaps ‘fight’ is a more appropriate term. Be prepared for the next few days to be all about the Cowboy’s fight, for more time with his kids. Because that is all some seem to want to do about an issue that only makes sense. Many if not most current studies will tell you, adults fighting is the absolute worst thing for children when it comes to divorce. When parents fight, kids can’t adjust. When parents co-parent, reserve judgement, get past blame and just love them best they can and let the other parent do the same, kids can get through just about anything. Including living between two homes.
But some want to fight.
I can’t imagine living in that space where anger and lashing out seem like your best option.
So I’m praying for peace in hearts and homes everywhere.
And because I know that’s a pretty tall order..
I’m going to keep cleaning tonight. Because I have this crazy notion that if I take enough time to think about it, I’ll eventually come to some understanding why anyone, especially someone who loves to boast they are God fearing, the better person, an upstanding citizen and always ‘right’ .. would ever treat another person with disdain, ill will and do everything possible to inflict pain where none is deserved. I’m searching for answers. But coming up with nothing that makes sense.
I may run out of things to clean..